Cayden and the MMR

We decided to get Cayden the MMR shot first seeing as he’s allergic to eggs and we wanted to see if he’d have a severe reaction to it. We also chose MMR because I wanted to get pregnant (we decided 4 months ago) and felt it was a bad idea if I had contracted Measles, Mumps or Rubella while pregnant.

So last night at 2 years 7 months Cayden got his first shot of his life…but looking at his face while he got the shot, you wouldn’t think anything had happened. I was at least expecting a wince, but nothing. So thats great! He’s a pretty tough kid, is always falling and just brushes himself off and tries again, so maybe its just in his nature.

To vax or not to vax

Someone asked me why I changed my tune on vaccines and homeopathy so I thought I’d put it on here as well.

 

So with vaccines, I felt really informed about ‘why not to vaccinate’, I felt I had read a lot of ariticles and a couple books and I felt I was making an informed decsion.
Tyson and I had agreed to delay vax until 2 years and then selectively vax Cayden at that point. So when 18 months came around we started looking into the info again so we knew which vaccines we wanted and which ones we didn’t. So we reread Dr. Sears book, and it definatly read different this time around. The first time I read it Cayden wasn’t born yet and I was against getting vaxed at that point, but this time after deciding that we wanted a handful of vax’s for him, I didn’t read it with as much of a closed mind to vaccines as I had before.
I started to feel that Cayden was a sitting duck, not having been vax’ed and was almost waiting to get certain illnesses, it was only a matter of time.
It also struck me that Dr. Sears said, just make sure that in your area it doesn’t become a fad that people don’t get vax’ed because it’s everyone else immune status that keeps you the non vaxer safe. So part of me felt incredibly selfish letting my child go needle free while I NEED other children to stick to the schedule to help keep my child safe.
I still know that vaccines aren’t 100% and children can have reactions to getting them, but I feel it is safer to get them then to not.
There are a few vax’s we aren’t getting, but most we are.
For our next child I still want to delay vaxing for the first year, but we will most likely do the same vax’s we do with Cayden.
 
And now on to Homeopathy…
I used to work at a Natural Foods store and was first introduced to homeopathy while working there and needing something to help me with my cramps.
I soon collected quite a few homepathic treatments and had them in my natural maedical box and felt really prud of my stash.
I read up on the history of homeopahy I even looked into becoming a Homeopath myself.
I knew how homeopathy worked, I introduced friends and family members to it and when I had a child who had terrible teething pain I gave it to him, everyday, multiple times a day. When my son had severe teeth caries at 1 years old, we brought him to a Naturalpath who prescribed us 6 different homeopathic treatments at the first visit.
As my sons teeth got worse and worse and we were questioning what on earth could have caused his teeth to deteriorate so rapidly, my husband remembered something we had put directly onto his baby teeth night and day, several times a day and wouldn’t brush afterward: Hylands Teething Tablets.
Now I’m not saying they are the sole problem, I blame genes and bacteria from my mouth as well, but we wonder if the tablets caused damage as well.
In the last year I’ve started to think skeptically about things in my day to day life. I’m not used to doing this…I come from a family who is vegetarian, very natural, spiritual etc. Science and spirituality don’t go hand in hand. . How do you scientifically question ‘energy work’?
I used to think that no scientific tests were performed on homeopathy, but in fact I was wrong, actually there has been many tests on it and they have all come back ‘just a placebo’.
So when I heard this I thought, well it seems to work whether its a placebo or not, so I could still use it. But then I thought of my natural medicine stash and I counted up how much I had spent on a placebo…I had $300 worth of placebo! I started to feel a bit taken advantage of.
I watched an episode of Penn and Tellers Bullshit on Homeopathic medicine, and even though its a tv show, it helped me come to terms with the feelings I had against the homeopathic companies making all this money on little sugar pills.
So I feel duped, decieved, fooled, taken advantage of.
I will not buy anymore homeopathic medicine.
With Cayden’s teething, I had done many things to help him including an amber teething necklace, frozen washclothes and lots of nursing, so its funny that for so long I gave credit to just the tablets for relieving all his teething pain.

Dawn

Everyone should see this movie:

The wonderful ‘Mom Jeans’

I fun note to Non-Preggers

Dear Non-Pregnant Person,
I hope you find these guidelines helpful in your interactions with pregnant women as failing to follow them may result in serious physical harm.
If you are thinking, surely she doesn’t mean me- then you should probably read this twice.

1) The appropriate response to a couple telling you they are having a baby is “Congratulations!” with enthusiasm. Any other response makes you an a$$

2) Through the wonders of science, we now know that babies are made ONLY by the mother and father- not grandparents. Unless the baby is in your uterus or you are the man that helped put it there, you may not ever use the phrase “my baby”.

3) On the same note, unless you made the baby as defined in 2, the pregnancy, birth and raising of the child are not about you. You do not have input. No one wants to hear your opinion unless they ask for it. The same goes for the name of the baby.

4) The body of a pregnant women should be treated the same as any other body. You would not randomly touch someone’s stomach if they were not pregnant, nor would you inquire into the condition of their uterus, cervix or how they plan to use their breasts. Pregnancy does not remove all traces of privacy from a woman.

5) Likewise, no woman wants to hear comments on her weight- ever. A pregnant woman does not find it flattering that you think she is about is pop, must be having twins, looks swollen or has gained weight in her face. Telling her she looks too small only makes her worry that she is somehow starving her baby. Making such comments invite her to critique your physical appearance and you may not act offended. The only acceptable comment on appearance is “You look fabulous!”.

6) By the time we are 20-30 years old, most of us have picked up on the fact that the summer is hot. We are hot every summer when we are not pregnant. We don’t need you to point out that we will be miserably hot before the baby comes.

7) There is a reason that tickets to L&D are not yet sold on Ticketmaster. Childbirth is actually not a public event. It may sound crazy, but some women really do not relish the idea of their mother, MIL or a host of other family members seeing their bare butt and genitals. Also, some people simply feel like the birth of their child is a private and emotional moment to be shared only by the parents. Like everything else in life, unless you receive an invitation, you are NOT invited. This includes doctor appointments, ultrasounds, labor, delivery, the hospital and the parents home. You do not decide if you will be there for the birth or if you will move in with the new parents to “help out”. If your assistance is desired, rest assured that you will be asked for it.

9) If you are asked to help after the birth, this means you should cleanup the house, help with cooking meals, and generally stay out of the way. Holding the baby more than the parents, interfering with breastfeeding and sleeping schedules and making a woman who is still leaking fluid from multiple locations lift a finger in housework is not helping.

10) The only people entitled to time with the baby are the parents. Whether they choose to have you at the hospital for the birth or ask for you to wait three weeks to visit, appreciate that you are being given the privilege of seeing their child. Complaining or showing disappointment only encourages the parents to include you less. I hope this helps- it sure makes us feel better.

Signed,
All Pregnant Women

Pregnant!

Number two is due in April!

We are very excited.

It still hasn’t completely sunk in.

I’m happy to not be pregnant over the hot summer!

A Spring baby sounds lovely.

I hope to do things very similar for this birth, because Cayden’s birth was so near perfect. I could do without the back labour so I will be trying to keep this baby in an anterior position. So that means, homebirth, waterbirth, 2 midwives, 1 doula and Tyson. I’m hoping that Cayden can see the last stages and see his sibling being born. My mom will be watching him while I’m in labour so hopefully it will go well her being there while I’m in labour.

I plan to not have an ultrasound this pregnancy unless medically needed. I also don’t plan on getting labour started. I don’t want to do things (even naturally) to get labour going as I think that is why Cayden was facing posterior last time. This baby can come out when they are ready.

I will not be giving dates this time. I’m saying mid to late April as the ‘due date’ as I don’t appreciate 20 phone calls on THE day. Not to mention 10 calls every day after THE date to see if he’s arrived yet. Family just don’t want to miss anything I suppose, but IT’S NOT HELPFUL!!!!!! There, no more talking about my annoyances, its out in the open 😉

I’m in love with baking. I have always loved it. I remember especially making baking soda biscuits with my mom and the plastic childs glass we would use as a cookie cutter. I miss that glass. That was my moms glass when she was a kid and then it was mine, so sad its gotten lost. I bet it was a really bad plastic though. I wonder what 1950’s plastic had in it?

I like to cook, but I love to bake. Cayden’s sensitivities/allergies have really spawned me onto a whole new world of getting my hands floury. Its fun trying to think up healthy ways to have cookies, muffins and loaf. Ok, well I don’t actually ‘think up’ my recipes, but I certanly use my google toolbar to its fullest. I have this method of finding healthy baked goods. I type in ‘mothering pumpkin muffin’ and it will always, 100%, never fail give me at least 4 healthy recipes. It will either take me to the Mothering website with their list of recipes or it will give me a blog of someone who is also on Mothering, or at least talks about it. So basically a ‘crunchy’ baker,  hehe. I have found so many great recipes that way and our kitchen drawer is full to the brim with WORD documents I print out. Even at work I’ll be obsessing over recipes to print out so I can add to my recipes. Its really a great thing to be obsessed about.

On my list…start gluten baking. I feel so intimidated by mixing flours and trying to get a good product that I just haven’t plunged in, but I would love to make something really scrumptious and bring it to playgroup to share (our playgroup is gluten free, and mostly dairy and meat free) You’d think there would be nothing to eat with all those limitations, but if you saw our tray of yummies today, wowee! There was dates, pumpkin seeds, black olives, goat cheese, rice crackers, cashews, watermelon, pineapple, cantaloupe, pinto beans and almond nugget (is that how you spell it Kerry? Although you say it noogah)

 

Oh! Oh! And the NURSE-IN!!!!! I was there! I was outside for the short while I could attend, holding a sign saying ‘Breastfeeding isn’t dirty, don’t hide it away’ (although last night I was pondering if I used the wrong wording, it just sounds weird now) I wanted to speak to the people that say ‘cover up’ or ‘why can’t she use a blanket’. So maybe ‘dirty’ wasn’t the right word, I just didn’t want to use the word ‘offensive’, I wanted it to sound more ‘slang’, or ‘street’, hehe ‘street’, so I was wanting my protest sign to sound ‘street’ lol, I think I need sleep because thats way too funny to me right now.

Anyway, I got there late, was at work, slipped out early, didn’t have Cayden but showed my support by being there. The great thing is my friend Shawna who was thinking of trying breastfeeding shen her baby arrives in October is VERY pro breastfeeding because of the whole Manuela thing, and has become a great lactivist, she came to the protest too.